Now that someone is in a relationship, it could be crystal clear that it is hard for them to connect to how they feel. Up until this point, it might not have even occurred to them that this was the case.

Or, if they were aware that this was a challenge for them, it might not have stood out in the same way. As a result of this, this might not have been something that absorbed too much of their attention.

A Different Experience

As they were not in a relationship at this point, they might not have needed to be in tune with their feelings. When it came to their job and spending time with their friends, for instance, they might have needed to be any other way.

Thus, their way of being wouldn't have caused them any difficulties or given them the need to change themselves. So, even if they did think ahead at the beginning of the relationship, there wouldn't have been a reason for them to be concerned about how they are.

Ready to Go

At the start of the relationship, they may have believed that they were ready to go down this path. However, as time passed, their belief in their own readiness may have started to diminish.

Alternatively, they may have just wondered what was going on; finding it hard to understand why they are this way. Either way, this area of their life is going to be far harder than it needs to be.

Held Back

When it comes to their partner, they could have a strong mental and physical connection with them, but the other part of their being, their heart, won't be fully on board. This doesn't mean that they won't feel anything towards them; it is likely to mean that this part of them won't always be online, so to speak.

Moreover, they may find that it is often easier for them to feel things for their partner when they are not in their company. Being this way might not have caused too many problems earlier on, but as time passed, this may have started to have a negative effect on the relationship.

Inner Blocks

For one thing, not having a good connection with themselves will prevent them from fully being in the relationship. What this will do is make it hard for the relationship to progress.

Further, not having a strong emotional connection to their partner could create uncertainty in them too and this could cause them to hold back. The part of them that would lock them in, their heart, will rarely be there to guide and support them.

Conflict

There is then going to be the impact that their behaviour has on their partner. Their partner could believe that one is not really into them and question if the relationship will last.

The reason for this is that they won't be receiving the emotional feedback that they need. One is then not going to need to do anything wrong or bad, as they will indirectly be sending out a strong message.

A State Of Confusion

After thinking about what is going on and their inability to stay connected to how they feel, they may often be angry and confused. They can be angry about what is going on and confused about why they are this way.

It could go even further, though, and one could start to criticise themselves and end up feeling very low. If this takes place, it will be important for them to reflect on the fact that they are not consciously choosing to be this way.

Protection

Although being this way is causing them, and their partner, problems, it is likely to be what feels safe. In other words, being in tune with their emotional self, and expressing how they feel, will be seen as a threat to their very survival.