The Surprising Reason Men Always Choose Certain Women - 2 minutes read
The Surprising Reason Men Always Choose Certain Women
(And constantly reject or overlook others)
Tanya had been told she was “amazing”, “A great catch” “cool” and “total girlfriend material” by the men she’d dated…
But all their seemingly kind words just made her feel worse.
Because the cold, hard truth was:
No matter how great they SAID she was, they still weren’t CHOOSING her.
Which meant these men were either lying, or there was something else wrong with her: something so repulsive they couldn’t bring themselves to stay with her.
“It made me feel broken” she told us. “Why am I never enough for the men I really want?”
“I just want someone to choose me”
This question of what makes a man choose a certain woman while overlooking others has plagued women for as long as men and women have been getting together.
And science may finally have an answer.
According to new research published in the scientific journal, “Archives of Sexual Behavior”*, men don’t choose women for “logical reasons”.
As dating and relationship coach Clayton Max told us, “It’s not about checking all the boxes on a man’s list of what makes his ‘perfect girl’. And a woman can’t convince a man to want to be with her”
In fact, Max says, when a woman tries to convince a man, pressure him, or show him how amazing she is, it’s likely to backfire, since these behaviors signal the exact opposite of what makes a man absolutely sure a certain woman is it for him.
“The reality is” according to Max, “men choose women who do one thing and one thing only:
They choose women who make them feel the powerful emotion of INFATUATION”
Psychologists have discovered that infatuation comes from a primal drive deep within the brain…
And in men, it’s either on or it’s off.
When a man’s infatuation instinct is ON, it doesn’t matter if a woman has any of the qualities he’s been looking for.
She could be completely wrong for him, but he’ll make time for her. He’ll move cities for her. He’ll change careers for her.
Because the Infatuation Instinct literally TURNS OFF the part of a man’s brain concerned with anything other than making her his.
So how does a woman activate a man’s Infatuation Instinct… to make him so overwhelmed with desire for her he’s willing to do anything to show her how much he wants her?